Financial Confidence For Facing Divorce
The emotional upheaval of a divorce is no time to be learning
money basics and selecting professional advisors. Preparing now
isn’t cynical – it’s smart.
In the late 16th century, when death parted married couples far more often than divorce, Sir Francis
Bacon wrote, “Knowledge is power.” Women of the 21st century should adopt that credo with the
addition of the word “financial.”

With the combination of later marriage, divorce, widowhood and longevity, almost 90 percent of women
will end up managing their finances alone at some point in their lives, according to the Department of
Labor. A strong base of financial knowledge can prepare you for that responsibility, regardless of when it

Unfortunately, when a divorce happens, there’s little value in the hindsight knowledge that a bit more
focus on the family finances would have been beneficial. Because trouble usually brews long before the
papers are served, that first pinprick of doubt is the time to sit up and pay attention. Arm yourself with
financial knowledge. If that pinprick goes away and you remain happily married, you’re no worse off for
having a better understanding of your overall financial situation. In addition to knowing, at minimum, how
much money comes into the household and what percentage goes toward bills, college funds, retirement
accounts and savings, you should also know where key financial documents, such as wills and insurance
policies, are kept.

Get to know the family financial advisor, accountant, attorney and insurance
professional. If divorce happens, you may decide to form new professional
relationships. If you hold joint accounts or seek joint services – for example,
the accountant prepares a joint tax return – you and your spouse are both
technically clients, and ethics prohibit professionals from acting against your
best interest. Don’t rely on your pending ex to relay information – call these
professionals yourself.

Married women may choose to have their own team of trusted advisors –
you and your husband can meet jointly with both advisors to keep your overall
strategies in sync. Better in a divorce situation not to have to shop around for
credible professional help. If you do have to find new professionals, start with
referrals from people you trust, particularly those who have been through a
divorce. If you at any time become uncomfortable with the professional –
particularly if you feel pressured to make major decisions in a short amount
of time or invest
money in ways you’re not sure about – remember that you
hired the professional – and you can fire that professional, too.

If learning the basics of finances and money management seems
overwhelming, start with small but consistent steps. Resolve to read
something – websites, magazines, books – on a financial topic every day.
Check out basic financial classes available from your local investment
company, bank or community college. Your professional advisors can help
as well. As the saying goes, there’s no such thing as a stupid question. Don’t
be intimidated. Most professionals welcome the opportunity to share their
knowledge and educate clients.

Because a divorce comes with a timeframe, major decisions will need to be
made in a relatively short period. These will include splitting assets such as
your home, cash and investments, including retirement accounts, as well as
liabilities, including your
mortgage, vehicle loans and joint credit card debt.
Some basic immediate steps include:

  •        Pulling your credit report.
  •        Opening individual bank, credit card and brokerage accounts.
  •        Changing beneficiaries on your accounts and policies.
  •        If you are a dependent on your husband’s insurance, determining if and how long your coverage
will continue. (Hint: Call the HR department of his employer or the insurance carrier yourself.)

A solid understanding of financial basics and the household’s financial picture, along with a team of
trusted advisors, can give you the confidence you need to make financial decisions throughout your life,
whether single, married with or without children, divorced or widowed. You owe it to yourself to learn
basic money management skills and find the professional assistance you need to make sound financial
decisions. It’s a skill you will almost certainly need in your lifetime, so it’s never too early to start.
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